Is it just me, or has the world in general decided to use LinkedIn contacts in a different way and I just didn’t get the message?
I thought that LinkedIn was intended to be a way to find people who knew someone you wanted to contact, a way of making an introduction to them via someone they knew, already had a relationship with and trusted. You could search for someone in a particular position or with specific experience, and then check through your network of contacts to see who knew this person, or knew someone who did, and then work your way through the chain to make the final connection.
Just lately, though, it seems that the stream of people asking for a direct connection with me on LinkedIn just keeps growing. Some of them are complete strangers, but claim to be my Friend; others are already linked to me through several other people, but want to upgrade that link to a direct connection. But why? If we both have a friend in common, why not ask that friend to make the introduction if they have something to ask me? What benefit do they gain from claiming a connection that doesn’t exist?
My ego may suggest that I’ve become a trophy, but as my friends will readily confirm I’m not such a prize that gaining a direct connection to me grants instant fame, immortality and access to the highest echelons of the industry. More likely it may just be that, like FaceBook, people are competing with each other for the largest number of Friends/Direct Connects. They may want to show how connected they are, but going about it this way just debases the whole concept of a personal relationship. I’m happy to be contacted by pretty much anyone who has a question, but I’ll continue to restrict my direct connections on LinkedIn to those I’ve worked with or known long enough to ask a personal favor or to personally recommendation them from experience.
Oh, and a side note about the need to keep your contacts’ profiles accurate. LinkedIn’s suggestions of people you may know and want to re-connect with are often useful, but recently it twice suggested that I connect with someone who, sadly, passed away over a year ago. In the traumatic aftermath of losing a loved one, it’s completely understandable that friends and relatives would place a very low priority on removing their on-line profiles. Nevertheless, this does emphasize the dangers of relying on automated CRM systems to contact past guests without constantly checking and re-checking your database to make sure its profile information is both accurate and current. Sending the wrong “personal” message is worse than sending no message at all.